The Los Angeles Institute and Society for Psychoanalytic Studies is organising a conference on twins in March 2020. I will be presenting my work at the conference, and contributing to a book to be produced from the conference.
More details to follow
Following the very successful and well attended workshop in 2017 at Tavistock Relationships, I will be doing a follow-on workshop on the 6th December 2019. Full details will be announced soon, but the workshop will take us further in our understanding of the nature of twin relationships and how they affect all our other relationships. The new workshop will build on the previous one, while also being accessible to those who did not attend the first workshop.
Read my blog in the Hippocratic Post:
Twinship: a subversive relationship
Workshop at Tavistock Relationships on Saturday 2nd December.
This workshop addressed the important issue of the effects of the enduring unconscious twin relationship on all the intimate relationships in the lives of a twin. The internal twinning that occurs between twins and is projected onto others in their lives is a central dynamic in twins, and if it is not recognised and attended to, it will significantly affect the relationships in which a twin engages and those who form relationships with twins. We addressed the dynamics of the twin relationship itself and the family, and marital and couple relationships, and parent-child relationships. We also discussed the therapeutic relationships and the importance for the therapist to recognise the twin transference in the couple and the compelling projections of the twin relationship onto the therapist.
The discussion was lively and included both professional and personal issues in twins and working with twins.
Listen to a lively phone-in about twins on SA Radio 702
I was approached by South African radio producer Comfort Kheswa to take part in a live radio phone-in on the 18th August. It was a lively and well managed discussion. Click here to listen to it:
This book is about our fascination with twins and the origins of this excitement; how our perceptions of twins reflect our own longing for a perfect soul-mate; and the effect this personal projection has on the development in twins. It is a book written with the general reader in mind rather than “experts”.
Twins share a deep psychic bond that forms the core of their twinship, but they are NEVER identical. Many factors will affect their development, including the early mutual resonances and sensate experiences between them, and parental and societal attitudes in raising them. I explore the internal dynamics of the twin relationship and the factors that crucially affect and shape it: the nature of the internal twin bond; the twins’ relationships with mother and father and siblings, including their perceptions about the twin relationship; the twins perceptions of each other within the intricately bound twin relationship; each twin’s perception of the other twin’s relationship with mother and father; and the outside world with its expectations and strictures on twins. The importance of enabling twins to develop individually within the twin relationship rather than remain as a bound pair, is examined within the context of the factors that influence this development.
Both our unconscious perceptions about twins, and the way these perceptions affect our behaviour and attitudes towards the twins will influence the individual development in twins and our treatment of twins in society. The way twins are used as a device in literature offers us a further opportunity to understand our own pre-conceptions about twins and doubles, and it affords confirmation of our understanding about twin relationships. The section on cultural practices looks at how the response to the birth of twins differs around the world according to the local myths, religious and the unconscious beliefs upon which they are based.